- Social Groups
- Pros & Cons
- Expert Advice
- Tweet (http://twitter NULL.com/share)
According to Anges de Lumiere—a former international corporate lawyer from Paris, FR—motherhood after 40 doesn’t mean you have to lose the ‘battle of the bulge’ against an army of postpartum or perimenopausal hormones.
(Count me in—I’m in the front trenches of the midlife-mom gym, sucking spinach rations, and fighting off a hail of fat-flak!)
What’s more, de Lumiere—now pregnant and expecting to give birth in April 2011 at age 45—feels she’s discovered the secret to being slim after having children in your 40’s or 50’s.
With her new book, The Journey of The Slim Soul (http://www NULL.journeyoftheslimsoul NULL.com/), de Lumiere intends to free midlife women and mothers from the illusion that having kids after 40, as well as aging, means getting fat.
“I wrote it to inspire women to love themselves more and to combat the damage of the dieting industry.”
“It is not inevitable to grow bigger when we age,” she argues. “The reason we put on weight is emotional—we tend to accumulate what I call ‘pounds of pain.’”
“I managed to ‘lose’ 24 lbs with only half a thyroid—so often the reasons we believe we are overweight can be false beliefs,” she says.
De Lumiere has a track record of having walked the talk. At 36, she left her lucrative career and first marriage—which felt like a “golden cage”—and moved to England to start a second family, giving birth to a son at 40.
She then re-trained as a clinical hypnotherapist, EFT practitioner, writer and speaker, to follow her dream of working with women and children.
Now a mother of a blended family—with 2 grown children from her first marriage and 3 from her partner’s first marriage—it’s clear de Lumiere likes to break with ‘conventional wisdom’ in child birth as well as slimming.
“I want to go further than ‘pain management’ during my child birth experience,” she says of her current pregnancy.
“I aim for orgasmic birth—it is possible and available to every woman, not just those who live in farms and don’t shave their armpits or wear lipstick every day.”
With the same avant garde approach to slimming, she says: “The process of being overweight can totally be reversed.”
“Mothers more than anyone else tend to put on weight because along their journeys as nurturers, they forget to nourish themselves and make sure that their needs are met.”
The consequences, she says, are that mothers end up feeling depleted and use food to fill the void. The secret to slimming, therefore, is all about self-care.
De Lumiere says that we need to get to the root of emotional issues contributing to the weight gain instead of just trying to control the effects.
“Once you are in the right frame of mind and have resolved your issues, the pounds just melt away easily and effortlessly.”
“If you try to do it before you are ready, however, or without addressing the real issues behind the weight, you are fighting an uphill struggle,” she continues.
And, having had a child after 40 with another on the way, Anges de Lumiere believes that later life mothers may actually be in a good place to find the right balance between parenting and slimming.
“I think, generally, older parents are more compassionate, confident and calmer.”
De Lumiere says she is more fit now than she was during her earlier pregnancies, having taken up running and becoming a vegetarian since then.
“I think I am in as good shape as I was when I was 30—if not better. I find that most of my friends who’ve had babies in their 40’s have much healthier lifestyles than their counterparts.”
And it’s no surprise—this soon-to-be-mom at 45 has been on the journey of the slim soul.
Notes for this blog:
Website for Anges de Lumiere’s book: www.journeyoftheslimsoul.com (http://www NULL.journeyoftheslimsoul NULL.com/)
FB Fanpage: http://www.facebook.com/journeyoftheslimsoul?ref=nf (http://www NULL.facebook NULL.com/journeyoftheslimsoul?ref=nf)
To purchase her book outside the United Kingdom, please go to: http://www.lulu.com/product/paperback/journey-of-the-slim-soul-%28intl%29/13568398 (http://www NULL.lulu NULL.com/product/paperback/journey-of-the-slim-soul-%28intl%29/13568398)
To contact Anges de Lumiere: angesdelumiere101[at]gmail.com (angesdelumiere101 null@null gmail NULL.com)
Angel La Liberte is the founder of the website Flower Power Mom—The Truth About Motherhood After 40 (http://www NULL.achildafter40 NULL.com/) (www.flowerpowermom.com (http://www NULL.achildafter40 NULL.com/)), a regular blog featuring news, commentary, real mom stories and expert advice about motherhood after 40.
You can email her at editor[at]flowerpowermom.com. Find her on Twitter: http://twitter.com/FlowerPowerMoms (http://twitter NULL.com/FlowerPowerMoms) and Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Flower-Power-Mom/173079456036144 (http://www NULL.facebook NULL.com/pages/Flower-Power-Mom/173079456036144).
Tagged with: baby after 40 • blended family • fertility after 40 • first time mother over 40 • hormones weight • menopause and motherhood • mother after 40 • mother over 40 • mother over 45 • mother over 50 • motherhood after 40 • motherhood after 50 • motherhood over 40 • mothers after 40 • mothers over 40 • older mothers • slimming after 40
- (http://www NULL.ctvnews NULL.ca/health/health-headlines/women-increasingly-going-online-to-seek-free-sperm-donors-1 NULL.1590245)
Angel on CNN(http://www NULL.youtube NULL.com/watch?v=WySnP2nnwXU)
CNN Mother's Day: "Mature Moms" (http://www NULL.youtube NULL.com/watch?v=WySnP2nnwXU)(http://youtu NULL.be/atScMih4_d0) (http://www NULL.youtube NULL.com/watch?v=sGRro4rHGeA)
AARP's "Inside E-Sreet" on PBS TV (http://www NULL.youtube NULL.com/watch?v=sGRro4rHGeA)
(http://twitter NULL.com/achildafter40) (https://www NULL.facebook NULL.com/AChildAfter40) AChildAfter40 (http://pinterest NULL.com/AChildAfter40/)
- Subscribe to the Online Magazine from AChildAfter40.com (http://www NULL.scoop NULL.it/t/a-child-after-40-weekly-news)
- ACHILDAFTER40.COM Updates
- Adoption Over 40
- Career, Work and Business
- Celebrity Moms Over 40
- Dads Over 40
- Fertility-Infertility Over 40
- Growing Up in the ‘60s & ‘70s
- Health & The Over 40 Mom
- Later Motherhood In The News
- Menopause & Kids
- Midlife Mother's Day
- Mothers Over 40
- Mothers Over 50
- Parenting After 40
- Pregancy and Birth Over 40
- School and Over 40 Moms
- Seasonal Holidays
- Social and Support Groups
- Social Stigma and Becoming Social
TagsAdoption adoption after 40 aging baby after 40 blended family donor eggs egg donation after 45 egg donation after 50 egg donors famous moms after 40 fertility fertility after 40 fertility over 40 first time mother over 40 infertility IVF after 40 kelly preston kelly preston birth menopause menopause and motherhood mother's day mother's day after 40 mother's day gifts mother after 40 motherhood after 40 motherhood after 50 motherhood over 40 mother over 40 mother over 45 mother over 50 mothers after 40 mothers day 2013 mothers over 40 mothers over 40 school mothers over 40 working Older fathers older mothers older mothers kindergarten kids older mothers school over 40 pregnancy Parenting After 40 pregnancy over 40 pregnant after 40 school surrogacy