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While 40-year-old Fey was clearly pregnant—rendering the “big announcement” practically rhetorical—the viewing experience was riddled with awkward tension.
It was like watching a couple of kids tossing a football following an afternoon of fingering buttered popcorn at the movies—one fumble after another.
I felt an involuntary cringe when Tina Fey appeared to painfully decline (http://www NULL.oprah NULL.com/oprahshow/Tina-Feys-Big-Announcement-Video) to join Oprah for a silhouetted bump-revealing standing ovation on her 5-month pregnancy.
The diva of daytime—Oprah appeared so uncharacteristically gauche when dealing with a pregnant woman.
Honestly? Being encouraged to stand up and show off 5 months worth of fetus is equivalent to a stranger reaching out and groping it uninvited—an unsavory gesture occurring with unexpected frequency to expectant mothers.
Was it me or was Fey squirming like an unwilling worm beneath the public scrutiny of a TV audience of millions on the subject of her impending motherhood?
“Is it real?” Oprah asked, eyeing the thing dubiously.
The laugh that tortured Fey’s face in response foreshadowed the 3rd trimester constipation cocktail—complete with raging hemorrhoid garnish—to come.
With a 5-year-old daughter, a successful career culminating in 30 Rock and widespread public acclaim, it appeared odd that she seemed to bow herself off the stage with excuses for being an older mother.
“I’m 40! Older ladies having babies—it’s an epidemic!” was her muttered explanation.
Frankly, I don’t understand is what all the stink is about. Fey tells Oprah that she faced a “dilemma”—at 40 her fertility is declining, but she’s still head of a hit show.
It was “Tina’s Choice”—her second child or her continued climb to the lofty heights of being a media icon.
Becoming a mother at 40 meant potential career ruin.
But why should such a choice be necessary? Lift up the Tinsel Town rock and you’ll find the truth.
Reviewing her new book, Bossy Pants (http://www NULL.amazon NULL.com/Bossypants-Tina-Fey/dp/0316056863), and her choice to star in Motherhood—The Sequel, People (http://www NULL.people NULL.com/people/article/0,,20479975,00 NULL.html) quoted Fey as saying: “Hollywood be damned. I’ll just be unemployable and labeled crazy in five years anyway.”
In the land of Dreamworks and Botox, a virtual Mesopotamia for our cultural gold standard of beauty, 40 is the new 30 for women and mothers.
The minute we become a late-40’s Meg Ryan in Serious Moonlight (http://en NULL.wikipedia NULL.org/wiki/Serious_Moonlight_%282009_film%29)—with a face so “drastically reconfigured” (http://www-movieline-com NULL.vimg NULL.net/2009/10/meg-ryan-does-misery-in-serious-moonlight-trailer NULL.php) by plastic surgery it looked like the aftermath of an apocalyptic encounter with a pool drain—the game is up.
Despite our “epidemic” numbers, our culture still follows zero tolerance for women, motherhood and aging.
Notes for this blog:
Angel La Liberte is the founder of the website Flower Power Mom—The Truth About Motherhood After 40 (http://www NULL.achildafter40 NULL.com/) (www.flowerpowermom.com (http://www NULL.achildafter40 NULL.com/)), a regular blog featuring news, commentary, real mom stories and expert advice about motherhood after 40. She gave birth to her children at 41 and 44 after conceiving naturally.
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