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There’s an old proverb that (contracted) reads: “The proof is in the pudding.” (See link below.) Or in my case, it was in the womb.
When Frank and I told the doctor at the fertility clinic that—at the age of 44—I still wanted to conceive with my own eggs, we were given the bum’s rush out onto the sidewalk faster than the nickel-tour at a carnival Fun House.
The abrupt lack of ceremony with which were ejected from an establishment purporting to provide sympathetic medical aid to women desperate to conceive, left me drowning in breathless tears in the hot sun of a summer day.
Little did I suspect in that moment, I was already 2 weeks pregnant with Lizzie—my now 4-year-old girl with the bouncing blonde curls.
I’d had a ‘bun in the oven’—or a ‘pudding’ on the hob—the whole time.
It was a lesson in faith I will never forget and has made me eager to share other stories of hope for fertility after 40.
Writer and entrepreneur Cindy Bailey (http://www NULL.fertilekitchen NULL.com/aboutus NULL.html) from San Jose, CA reports a similar experience—after marrying at 38, she was advised she had only a 2% chance of conceiving a child.
“Like many of my generation”, she says, “I was focused on career, work, and independent good fun.”
“I did not feel the ‘tug’ for a child until my early 30s, but I was with the wrong person”, Bailey admits.
By the time she had met and married her husband, she became aware that, when it came to babies, she “didn’t have a lot of time left.”
“I told my husband—who is also very independent—if we want a child, we have to do it now; we can’t wait.”
And, having reached a point in her life where conceiving a child had become “a tenacious need,” she was not prepared “to accept ‘no’” for an answer. From anyone.
So after the doctor gave her the odds, Cindy Bailey—a former athlete with an interest in nutrition—got together with her husband, Pierre, and began cooking up some alternatives.
“I had always had an interest in nutrition and how it can be used to optimize health,” she says.
When the couple conceived their now 4-year-old son Julien just after Cindy turned 40—and only 4 months after she had been on a specialized diet—they had a brainstorm for a book to aid other older women in their quest to conceive—The Fertile Kitchen Cookbook: Simple Recipes for Optimizing Your Fertility. (http://www NULL.fertilekitchen NULL.com/)
“The fertility diet I followed—and recommended in our book—is one that includes eating an all-organic diet with plenty of vegetables, lean protein, good carbs, and healthy fats such as those found in nuts, seeds, and oils found in olive oil and seafood,” she says.
She goes on to advise “staying away from processed foods,” such as bottled drinks, processed sugar, artificial sweeteners, trans fat, as well as wheat (which is hard to digest) and dairy.
“My husband’s simple-to-make recipes made from the ‘allowed’ foods helped to keep me from getting bored and giving up,” recalls Bailey.
She goes on to cite a number of studies that connect diet to fertility (or lack of it)—including the Nurses’ Health Study, upon which Harvard researchers Chavarro and Willett, based their book, The Fertility Diet (http://books NULL.google NULL.com/books?id=GRaIICKSRBMC&dq=Chavarro+willett+The+fertility+diet&printsec=frontcover&source=bn&hl=en&ei=2J83TIDpMpL2swPg8NlR&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=4&ved=0CCoQ6AEwAw#v=onepage&q&f=false)—along with a 2004 study (file:///C:/Documents%20and%20Settings/bcozzens/Local%20Settings/Temporary%20Internet%20Files/Content NULL.Outlook/WFI0LTKU/:%20http:/www NULL.fertstert NULL.org/article/S0015-0282%2803%2902717-1/abstract) showing how alcohol consumption adversely affects fertility.
“Quite simply,” she says, “alcohol elevates prolactin levels—the hormone which enables breast milk production—and thereby inhibits ovulation, reducing fertility.”
Today, Cindy Bailey—who is about to complete her first novel—is a strong advocate for women hoping to conceive after 40.
“There are many fabulous benefits to being an older mom but, for most, it is more challenging to conceive in later years.”
“Keep in mind, however, we’re not statistics,” she continues. “We’re individuals with the power to make a difference in our own health and fertility.”
“First and foremost—I believe it is possible to conceive later and that we have much more power than we think we do.”
In the end, Cindy Bailey bears the ‘proof’ in the so-called fertility ‘pudding.’
“The reward—my beautiful son—has been worth every grueling moment on the fertility journey!”
Notes for this blog:
“The proof is in the pudding”: http://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/proof+is+in+the+pudding
Cindy Bailey is Co-author of:
The Fertile Kitchen (R) Cookbook: Simple Recipes for Optimizing Your Fertility (http://www NULL.fertilekitchen NULL.com/)
www.fertilekitchen.com (http://www NULL.fertilekitchen NULL.com/)
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