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Let me begin with the single, most important, axiom of midlife motherhood:
No woman kicks back in her twenties and plans the course of her life just to cram in popping a few kids sometime after she’s forty or fifty, like a sad afterthought—the “red-haired stepchild” of life’s priorities.
It doesn’t work like that. Having a child is—and always will be—the most important choice of a woman’s life.
I was born in 1960, a child of the Flower Power generation. It would be the next millennium before I had my first child.
The 1960’s marked the beginning of an era when women were expected to do something with their lives other than planting themselves, “barefoot and pregnant”, in the kitchen baking brownies.
Back in those days, everyone was gung-ho that some book learning and a career more lofty than bottom feeding in a corporate typing pool while waiting for a Jimmy Stewart clone to come along, should come first.
Even so, my first marriage took place at the socially correct age of twenty-six, after I’d managed a BA (Hons) in Psych. But the fairy tale ended abruptly there.
The union promptly crashed on the rocks of Failure-To-Communicate when I discovered that my (then) husband didn’t want kids—along with a host of other little unexpected surprises I won’t delve into here.
Exit stage left, at age thirty.
It then took another ten years—and the tortuous kissing of a flotilla of unprincely frogs later—before I met the Real Deal. (I wasn’t going to make the same mistake twice.)
There he was: Frank. My new husband. The Man-Who-Would-Be-Father. And I knew it the minute I clapped eyes on him. We were inseparable from our first date.
It was 2001. I was forty, and finally on the road to motherhood.
And I was blessed with the “mother” lode: first with a son, just before I turned forty-two in 2002 and then with a daughter, when I was almost forty-five in 2005.
Miraculously, they were conceived without the need of ART (Assisted Reproductive Technologies). I was of the blessed and fortunate few in the “grandma class” of expectant mothers.
In fact, they were created “artlessly”, with a load of love and a heaping helping of elbow grease (literally).
Now I’m pushing fifty. I’m truly a midlife mom. A Flower Power Mom.
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