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Angel La Liberte, Founder, AChildAfter40.com

Fertility tips from expert moms who conceived naturally and gave birth after 40.

ACHILDAFTER40.COM is pleased to launch the first compendium of natural fertility tips for women over 40 from the experts who have “walked the talk.”

Meet The Over 40 Fertility Squad—six expert moms who conceived naturally, gave birth after 40, and have now joined forces to share their unique fertility wisdom.

Eat healthy, drink pure liquids and be pregnant!

From Angel La Liberte, Founder of ACHILDAFTER40.COM--conceived naturally and gave birth to a son and a daughter at age 41 and 44.


Jan Andersen, Mothers Over 40

EXPERT #1: Jan Andersen—gave birth to a daughter at 40.

Founder of Mothers Over 40 (http://www NULL.mothersover40 NULL.com/), the UK sister site of AChildAfter40.com (http://www NULL.achildafter40 NULL.com).  Author of Enhancing Fertility After Age 40 (http://www NULL.mothersover40 NULL.com/enhancingfertility NULL.html). Read Jan’s Story 1, Story 2.

Tip #1: If you are upset, anxious, and tense or under extreme pressure, your body can release hormones that disrupt the normal functioning of the pituitary gland, which, can disturb the normal menstrual cycle, causing irregular ovulation. Studies have shown that creative visualization or hypnosis can significantly increase your chances of conceiving by reducing these negative effects of stress.

Tip #2: Certain herbal supplements have been known to enhance fertility: Agnus Castus is the most clinically studied herb and is widely used to help regulate the hormones and stimulate ovulation.*

Dong Quai is a Chinese herb that dilates the blood vessels and improves circulation throughout the body, balances estrogen levels, regulates the menstrual cycle and builds a receptive uterine lining to support a developing embryo.*

Red Clover is rich in B vitamins, calcium and protein and also helps to detoxify the blood. Up to four cups of the decoction (made from dried, not fresh, blossoms) can be drunk a day, but you may need to take this for some time to reap the full benefits.+

Red Raspberry Leaf tones the uterus by making it contract mildly.* Raspberry Leaf works particularly well when combined with Red Clover.

*Agnus Castus, Dong Quai and Red Raspberry Leaf should never be taken during pregnancy. Dong Quai should not be taken if you are already taking baby aspirin to thin the blood and reduce clotting.

+ Red Clover contains blood-thinning properties, so should not therefore be used following surgery or in patients with blood-clotting disorders.

Tip #3: Consider consulting an Ayurvedic practitioner. Optimizing fertility is one of the many benefits of Ayurveda. Some of the foods believed to benefit the reproductive system in Ayurvedic practice are: Almonds, walnuts, pumpkin seeds and quinoa, asparagus, broccoli, milk, cream, ghee, rice pudding, seaweed, dates, pomegranates, grapes, papaya, pineapple, peaches, pears, apples, bananas, plums.

Herbs: Organic Ashwagandha, Shatavari, Kapikacchu, Gokshura, Bala. Spices: Turmeric, Cumin.

Cindy Bailey, Fertile Kitchen

EXPERT #2: Cindy Bailey, gave birth at 41.

Co-author, The Fertile Kitchen® Cookbook: Simple Recipes for Optimizing Your Fertility. www.fertilekitchen.com (http://www NULL.fertilekitchen NULL.com/) Read Cindy’s Story.

Tip #1: Eliminate alcohol, which disrupts the absorption of nutrients, weakens the immune system, raises blood sugar levels and increases prolactin levels (which inhibits ovulation).

Tip #2: Eliminate caffeine—not only does it negatively affect fertility, but it increases chances of miscarriage.

Tip #3: Eliminate processed sugar, which negatively affects blood sugar and insulin levels, leading to hormonal imbalance.

Tip #4: Avoid overly processed foods. Most processed foods are full of preservatives, artificial ingredients, saturated fat and/or trans fats, creating a heavy burden on your digestive system, liver, and overall health—and thereby negatively impacting fertility.

Tip #6: Find healthy ways to manage stress. Stress is fertility’s number one enemy! Healthy ways to manage stress include meditation, yoga, mindfulness and other mind-body therapies. Practice them daily.

Delrae Balgas, Midwife

EXPERT #3: Delrae Balgas—Gave birth to a son at 44.

Licensed, Certified Professional Midwife, Orange County, CA. Contact: Deld‌elivers@‍aol.com (De‌ldelivers null@null ‍aol NULL.com). Read Delrae’s Story.

Tip #1: Maintain a healthy lifestyle including diet and exercise and a normal BMI.

Tip #2: The chances of conceiving are lower as you get older—knowing your body and how your cycle works is really helpful. Pinpointing ovulation and timing intercourse is everything for an older mom.

Tip #3: Some of my moms conceived after a cleansing fast.  I think it’s especially important to rid the body of metals and toxins as we get older.

Tip #4: I recommend reading the book, Taking Charge of Your Fertility (http://www NULL.tcoyf NULL.com/), by Toni Weschler, MPH. (Also recommended by Dr. Natanson, below.)

Maha Al Musa, Bellydance For Birth

EXPERT #4: Maha Al Musa—Gave birth to her daughter at 46.

Founder and Facilitator of Bellydance For Birth—The Al Musa Method® www.bellydanceforbirth.com (http://www NULL.bellydanceforbirth NULL.com/). Read Maha’s Story.

Tip #1: Eating a low GI diet (http://en NULL.wikipedia NULL.org/wiki/Glycemic_index) is significant because it reduces the fluctuations of blood sugar that can occur when the body is out of balance with a high sugar diet. This imbalance, that sugar can create, adversely affects the hormonal and endocrine system and hence one’s fertility.

Tip #2: If a woman’s partner is also attuned to diet, exercise and a positive outlook in conceiving naturally this can play an enormous role in a positive outcome. When a woman feels supported in the partnership of conceiving she will be more likely to relax into the process which is more beneficial than feeling stressed and isolated.

Tip #3: A loving relationship where both partners deeply care, support and nurture one another can be, in itself, a positive, harmonious medicine for fertility.

Tip #4: Gentle, rhythmic and joyful feminine expressions of exercise like the bellydancebirth® program can help to release “feel good” endorphins that will boost a woman’s inner well being, help to connect to her core feminine nature and release any tensions or stiffness in the pelvic region. The releasing action that is encouraged by this dance form aids good oxygenated blood flow to the pelvic organs that are conducive for conceiving.


Dr. Priscilla Natanson

EXPERT #5: Dr. Priscilla Natanson—gave birth at 40.

Naturopathic Doctor, practicing in Seattle, WA. www.SeattleNaturalMedicine.com (http://www NULL.seattlenaturalmedicine NULL.com/). Read Dr. Natanson’s Story

Tip #1: Identify and eliminate any food sensitivities.  These can increase inflammation in your system and make it harder to get pregnant. Common food sensitivities include:  wheat, dairy, soy, eggs & corn – though anyone can be sensitive to anything.  .

Tip #2: Low thyroid function is a common cause of infertility, so have your thyroid checked – and not just the TSH (the most common thyroid marker).  Check the hormones themselves (Free T3 & Free T4) and also to check for autoantibodies to your thyroid (Anti-thyroglobulin/Anti-TG & Anti-thyroid Peroxidase/ Anti-TPO).

Tip #3: Acupuncture – this can be incredibly helpful to prepare your body for pregnancy and is also great throughout pregnancy to help support your body.  Make sure you go to a Licensed Acupuncturist who knows how to work with fertility & pregnancy.

Tip #4: Take good quality supplements:  A good prenatal, Nordic Naturals Fish Oil capsules (my favorite brand because they are tested free of heavy metals), and Vitamin D if you need it (you can check it with a simple blood test).

Tip #5: Learn to identify your body’s natural fertility signals.  Read Taking Charge of Your Fertility (http://www NULL.tcoyf NULL.com/), by Toni Weschler, MPH. (Also recommended by Del Balgas.)

Cynthia Wilson James, InSeasonMom

EXPERT #6: Cynthia Wilson James—gave birth to two daughters at 42 and 44.

Childbirth Educator and Founder of InSeason Mom (http://www NULL.inseasonmom NULL.org/) www.inseasonmom.org (http://www NULL.inseasonmom NULL.org/). Read Cynthia’s Story.

Tip #1: Don’t seek approval or validation for your desire. If you are considering motherhood over 40 and can’t help sharing your desire with anyone who will listen, stop it or you’ll end up on an emotional roller coaster. There will be people who applaud your decision to give birth later and those who will tell you outright that you are too old to have a baby.

Tip #2: Guard your thoughts. You cannot prevent people or the media from saying negative things about pregnancy over 40. The key is not in what they say, but in what you believe.

Tip #3: Remain positive by reading supportive literature and visiting supportive websites about pregnancy over 40 and talking with others who have experienced a positive midlife pregnancy.


Articles on natural conception after 40:

Fertility features from AChildAfter40.com (http://www NULL.achildafter40 NULL.com):

Is This Your Conception Cup of Tea? http://www.achildafter40.com/wordpress/?p=1161

Making Fun of Fertility After 40


The Proof Is In The Fertility Pudding


Natural Love Potion Number 9?


From Belly Dancing to Water Birth, at 46


Who Needs Immaculate Conception?


Other Articles:

Natural Fertility After Forty, By Susun Weed.

http://www.susunweed.com/Article_Fertility_After_Forty.htm (http://www NULL.susunweed NULL.com/Article_Fertility_After_Forty NULL.htm)


Enhancing Fertility After Age 40 (http://www NULL.mothersover40 NULL.com/enhancingfertility NULL.html), by Jan Andersen.

The Fertile Kitchen Cookbook: Simple Recipes For OptimizingYour Fertility (http://www NULL.fertilekitchen NULL.com/index NULL.html), by Cindy Bailey and Pierre Giauque, Ph.D.

Dance of the Womb (http://www NULL.bellydanceforbirth NULL.com/), Book and DVD, by Maha Al Musa.

Taking Charge of Your Fertility (http://www NULL.tcoyf NULL.com/), by Toni Weschler, MPH.

© 2010 Angel La Liberte, www.achildafter40.com (http://www NULL.achildafter40 NULL.com/).

17 Responses to Meet The Over 40 Fertility Squad

  1. bb says:

    I am over forty and my partner recently asked that we have a child. I was apprehensive however I feel so much better after reading this article.

  2. hope says:

    I am 43 and will turn 44 shortly.
    I am healthy without any medical problems.
    I do not smoke or drink and have exercised/played sports all of my life. I am slender and fit but not underweight or anorexic.
    I still a regular period each month albeit it has started to come later one month and then earlier the next.
    Yes, my life has been stressful in past few years with career. That is something I would like to change.
    I only wanted to find the right partner/husband and that has frankly been the only reason I haven’t gotten pregnant/
    Should I have hope that I will conceive or have my own baby within the next year?
    I feel like life just threw a big unpleasant surprise at me but I need to hear some optimism that it will happen.
    Does anyone have any input for me?

    • Angel La Liberte (http://www NULL.flowerpowermom NULL.com) says:

      Hope, I’m not clear from your post as to whether you have a partner in your life and are planning to conceive.
      Studies have shown that, technically, your chances of conception are lower than 5% in a given month, after 42. Although it may not be uplifting, here is a blog by Mache Seibel, MD, specializing in REI, who is on the FPM expert panel, outlining later fertility and steps you should be taking: http://flowerpowermom.com/making-baby-takes-time/ (http://flowerpowermom NULL.com/making-baby-takes-time/). Normally it is recommended that a couple try for up to 6 months before visiting a reproductive endocrinologist. However, based your age, you should probably go right away for a referral from your doctor and an assessment.
      On the lighter side, I conceived naturally at 44, and gave birth just shy of turning 45, therefore, conception is possible at our age. Traditional Chinese medicine has been used to enhance natural fertility as well as your chances with IVF. Check out this article by Dr. Lorne Brown, on how to enhance your fertility: http://flowerpowermom.com/chinese-medicine-offers-fertile-hope-women-40/ (http://flowerpowermom NULL.com/chinese-medicine-offers-fertile-hope-women-40/). Here’s also another article by RE, Dr. Robert Boostanfar on outlining conception after 40: http://flowerpowermom.com/secrets-conception-forty/ (http://flowerpowermom NULL.com/secrets-conception-forty/).
      If you are without a partner, or efforts conceiving with your own eggs are not successful, then there are other options to consider, such as sperm or egg donation.
      Ultimately, if I were in your position, I’d start gathering information on my own fertility, healthcare options, and begin making a plan right away.

  3. Shell (http://Swanofdreamers NULL.blogspot NULL.com) says:

    I naturally conceived a baby at 42. My son is now 13 months.To echo what the other ladies said in the article, I really worked on staying active and eating well. Smoothies were my way to go especially with my veggies. I also did affirmations and visualizations that helped me immensely. I kept a list of famous women who got pregnant after 40 as my baby inspiration list.
    And having a supportive partner as my husband was and is helped in the year and half it took for me to get pregnant.

    • Rachel says:

      Thanks Shell! A list of famous women is a great idea! I love reading these stories as an inspiration that it is not too late for me. I just turned 42. My husband and I have only been trying for 3 months and we have been married for just 6 months.

  4. Angel La Liberte (http://www NULL.achildafter40 NULL.com) says:

    You did absolutely all the right things to enhance your natural conception, Shell! Maybe some acupuncture and Chinese medicine could have been added, but it sounds like you were wonderfully positive! Thanks for posting as I feel it helps other women to know that it is possible. Approaching it from a physical, emotional and even spiritual level covers all the bases and adds momentum to manifesting your goal. It might sound strange, but I would mentally focus on the child I so much wanted to conceive, imagined what she’d look like, her personality, sense of humor, etc. In the end, my daughter turned out much as I’d imagined. :) I’m not saying this alone is the solution, but remaining positive helps keep us from getting stressed out. Stress can inhibit conception. It was only after I finally “let go” and stopped freaking out that I conceived at 44.

  5. […] Meet The Over-40 Fertility Squad, from AChildAfter40.com. Six expert moms who gave birth over 40, after conceiving naturally, give vital tips on getting pregnant when you’re older. […]

  6. dionne says:

    I will be 44 in a few months. I have been carrying this burden for the past 14 years. I have tried everything, and still I find myself standing at the same crossroads. I helped my husband raise is two children, but I still wanted a child of my own. He has moved on now that my step children are grown. Meaning he loves life just the two of us. But here I stand still feeling left out and incomplete and less than a woman. I try to hold on to hold on to one day it will happen but deep down inside I know better. We don’t talk about it because he feels I should have moved on by now. So I promised we would never talk about how I felt ever again in life. I will take my feeling with me to my grave. My only fear is I will die not knowing what motherhood feels like!!!!

    • Andrea says:

      Dionne, I have felt the EXACT same way…I never talk about what I want and what I need….PLEASE say out loud what you need and want! We only have this one life, I know what it’s like to be around the kids of your boyfriend…if you want a child of your own, you MUST do something before it’s too late! I’m 41 and my girlfriends have been telling me this for years! PLEASE don’t let this opportunity pass you by! I only urge you out of share desire and love for my fellow ‘wanting’ sister! <3 to you! Andrea

  7. Tracey says:

    I am 42 and I have two children of my own from previous relationship. However, my husband and I have been married going on 8 years in November and we would like a child together. I have cried, prayed, everything and just looking for any and all ways to increase my fertility. At times it has caused great depression.

  8. MM says:

    Andrea, Tracey, help yourself by trying to inspire yourselves. If there is any possibility it can only start with your positive attitude. If your partner needs to be on board, it may take a little time but start being diligent about what YOU can start doing, he will see how serious you are. If he still does not respond you may not be with a right person,,,,,,he also needs to prepare his sperm too. I started wanting to have another baby after 12 years at 46 and am working on it. It is natural to want to be a mom. I hope this may start inspiring you. I bought books from amazon and I liked the book The Infertility Cure as well as the other book mentioned on this website by Toni W. Having given it a try will allow me to go to grave with more content than not having tried and wondering could I have tried more? In taking acupuncture and recommended supplements by two totally different clinics, and resting on nice relaxation mats, I have been able to appreciate the sense of calm and just better wellness overall, waking up, skin, wetness, feeling totally overall better. So my efforts are not wasted at all. I wish you much success in what you can appreciate fit for you.

  9. MM says:

    By the way, my husband is 69 and working on sperm production. Why we delayed are: I was depressed after miscarriage and lost interest. Moving and stress and career. No more doors were open for adoption so I decided to give it a try!! Age-wise in normal sense, is totally absurd I know but I am happy to be quietly trying it together with hubby.

  10. Kris says:

    Great reading, thank you. I am still single at 41, and being single is the Only reason I am childless. I have been trying to conceive since 38 and you cannot start this journey without guts and knowledge. I have a few female friends that got pregnant naturally or with IUIs in the 38-40 age range and I know that as long as you have your uterus and periods, it is very possible to conceive. In fact I’m starting to believe older eggs fertilize better inside you. I have had a chemical and a miscarriage so atleast I know I am capable of conceiving. RE attributes my egg quality to the miscarriages. I do have some endo around my ovary and that is being monitored. I have no fertility coverage and that is making this process worst. As far as supplements and lifestyle, one cannot completely eradicate stress, I work a lot but I excercises, have really changed my diet and I have been taking a lot of supplements since I started TTC. PABA was recommended, co enzyme q, L-argentine and Vit D. my thyroid is ok and like I said, I had my first positive after I started PABA, and everything else I listed. I am starting to try again with a handsome male who is willing to donate, as I can’t keep going thru a doctor and donor sperm is expensive. He just went for his HIV test and everything and he has a child so I think he is good. I am still taking everything (chlomid also) and will look into some inexpensive accupuncture at a clinic near me as I was paying a lot with a ‘fertility acupuncurist’ a couple yrs ago and they want too much money and I honestly don’t think there’s a difference. Now I am up in the air on DHEA supplement. I tried this a couple yrs ago, cheap CVS brand and got headaches. I could not take it. I also read an RE’s blog on DHEA And he does
    Not recommend it for older women with low ovarian reserve. He did seem to think it can help some women though. And finally, I have never heard of any of these supplements mentioned, like cactus, red raspberry whatever, and other herbs that were mentioned. I may look into buying a couple of these but I am weary. I just hope this happens for me. I wish I would have started this journey when I was 34 or 35 but had no idea I would be single at my age. I know there’s a good egg in me somewhere which is why I’m going to try every cycle and if nothing happens I’m the next 6 mod or yr, I will move onto donor embryo or something. Good luck to all of the ladies and this is a great website, thank you.

  11. Angel La Liberte (http://www NULL.achildafter40 NULL.com) says:

    Hey, Kris, I can completely understand why you are “weary” and getting fed up! I’m pretty certain that your emotional/mental frame of mind does have an impact on your fertility. I was very low emotionally (and tired) when I was TTC a second time at 43. I gave up for a while and that’s when it happened.
    I realize the “biological clock” is ticking, but it may help just to take a short break from TTC and re-group. Taking the pressure off for a short time can relax the whole body. Regarding herbal supplements, Jan Anderson at http://www.MothersOver40.com (http://www NULL.MothersOver40 NULL.com) has a great e-book on herbal supplements and enhancing your fertility. No harm done if you’re doing a little research and preparing yourself along the way. :)
    I really like what this woman did when she was trying to conceive–as part of a visualization process, she pasted pictures of pregnant women, with her own face on top, at various places around her home. It sounds a bit weird, but it helped her visualize herself being pregnant and she did! Please check in with us again and feel very welcome to ask questions! Above all, try to relax if you can.

  12. Mareilamarte says:

    Thank you so much for your article, I was in tears today after talking to my grandma. I am forty and eventhough my grandma had a child at 42, she told me that a women at forty should not try to conceive, because of problems with the children.

  13. Amy says:

    Thank you!!!! You encourage me and give me many positive feelings!!

  14. Venice says:

    Hello out there…

    I’m 48 years old and will be 49 in May, and i want to have another baby !
    . My first child is 26 years old and she is all for it. My son (of my daughter’s father) calls me mommy and im his, period!! ,Lol
    And yet i find my desire overwhelming at times because of my wanting to have more children.

    I’ve miscarried when my daughter was 4 1/2 months old. I was with my partner at the time for nine years and in those nines years he and i talked about more but nothing never happened. I’m scared but this wanting to have more babies is strong. I’ve found a way by Home Semination kit called Stork and I’ve found a Licensed Sperm bank and 4 great candidates for Sperm Donation and purchase,. But i too find fear of what others in Church and in my family will say and think.

    Why do women at my age ( well over 40) think like this.
    I’ve been Praying for years and im still single and my daughter’s Father, is well into his 70s so I don’t think he would want to help me get pregnant. Any insights thoughts or suggestions here?

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