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(http://www NULL.achildafter40 NULL.com/ivf-after-40/sue-collier-2/)It was just after turning 40 that Sue Collier—CEO of a self publishing company in Denver, CO—“woke up” and began to panic about whether she’d ever conceive a baby.
Although Collier had “married late at 35,” she was in the midst of building her business (see below) and wasn’t quite ready to get pregnant.
“But we did nothing to prevent pregnancy,” she adds. “For years we just kidded ourselves that it would happen naturally.”
A fit and healthy marathon runner, Sue Collier felt she had nothing to fear about her ability to conceive.
However, after five years of “nothing happening,” she hit the hard reality of her 40’s. Collier and her husband were suddenly worried it was too late and contacted a reproductive endocrinologist.
The results of their initial interview were emotionally devastating.
“They basically took one look at my birth date and told me they couldn’t help unless I used an egg donor—and this was before they did any kind of testing,” recalls Collier.
“I will never forget driving home from that appointment,” she says. “I was in tears thinking that surely I had waited too long.”
But the Colliers weren’t ready to give up.
Upon a referral from her gynecologist, Sue Collier got a second opinion from the Colorado Center for Reproductive Medicine (CCRM) (http://www NULL.colocrm NULL.com/AboutCCRM/CCRMPhysicians NULL.aspx).
“The head of CCRM, Dr. William Schoolcraft, is world renowned for his work in infertility—especially with women over the age of 40,” she says.
Collier began testing and treatment immediately, feeling a “more encouraging” atmosphere at the clinic, where she was “not written off for being too old.”
After several failed attempts at IUI (intrauterine insemination), she succeeded in getting pregnant through IVF.
At the age of 44, Sue Collier gave birth to her son, Luca.
Now 47, Collier is a thriving midlife mompreneur of a successful business offering a turnkey self publishing service (www.SelfPublishingResources.com (http://www NULL.selfpublishingresources NULL.com/)), and is listed in Who’s Who.
In fact, she could write a book on the balancing act of managing a business, being a dedicated mom to an active toddler, and facing the physical challenges of middle age— all rolled into one.
“I stay physically fit—and I think that is critical if you are a middle-aged mommy,” she says.
“I don’t have aches and pains associated with being my age—at least not yet—and I have lots of energy, so I have no problem keeping up with a preschooler!”
Unlike many mothers over 40, Collier has had it easy in terms of finding mom-peers and dodging the usual slings and arrows of social stigma.
“I’m lucky enough to live in a community where there are plenty of older moms, so I have not faced any of the discrimination I hear of other midlife mommies facing.”
“And I’m happy to say that no one has mistaken me for being my son’s grandmother!” she adds.
But business did not afford such an easy ride and she had some big adjustments to make.
According to Collier, at the time she gave birth, “self publishing was going through a dramatic change—print on demand and social media offered so many new options for authors.”
“The first year after my son’s birth was really rough, frankly, while I figured out where my expertise fit into the new way of doing things.”
But perseverance paid off—along with a mother’s little helper going off to his first day of preschool.
“During the last 6 months or so, I finally hit my stride in terms of what I offer my clients,” she says.
“My son also started preschool then—co-incidence? Probably not!”
Ultimately, Sue Collier—the woman who once panicked that she’d waited too long to get pregnant—is an advocate for over-40 mompreneurhood.
“I think women in their 40s make awesome mompreneurs because we tend to have plenty of work experience—especially those of us who have had no children up to that point.”
“For me, suddenly becoming a stay-at-home mom after having worked since I was 16 years old would not have worked—balancing my business with motherhood, while challenging, has been ideal for me.”
Notes for this blog:
Angel La Liberte is the founder of the website Flower Power Mom—The Truth About Motherhood After 40 (http://www NULL.achildafter40 NULL.com/) (www.flowerpowermom.com (http://www NULL.achildafter40 NULL.com/)), a regular blog featuring news, commentary, real mom stories and expert advice about motherhood after 40.
For further information about Sue Collier’s self publishing company: http://selfpublishingresources.com/ (http://selfpublishingresources NULL.com/)
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