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Kim Croisant, MommieAgain.com

By Kim Croisant, blogger at MommieAgain.com

Here I am in my 50’s: a Wife, Mom, Nana, and—unexpectedly—a “Mommie Again” to our youngest grandson.

Even though I am his grandmother, I’m “Mommie” to him. He does not know his biological mother and will never know his father.

Since unexpectedly becoming an “older mother” again in my 50’s, I’ve worked to inspire grandparents who are raising their grandchildren–as well as “later moms” who gave birth or adopted after 40–and all of us facing the menopause monster!

 

How I Went From Grandma to Mom

From the beginning of this journey, I was blogging. At first, we didn’t know the fate of our grandkids (there were three involved), so I simply called it “Our Journey”.

But my life changed dramatically the day my son and his wife lost their parenting rights.  That’s when I began blogging at MommieAgain.com (http://www NULL.mommieagain NULL.com)—sharing stories about raising my grandson while in my 50’s, and experiencing the vagaries of menopause.

Now, our grandson, Brody, lives with us permanently and his two older brothers live with another family member. We get together often and have fun times.

 

Menopause and Motherhood At 50+

Brody was only 5 weeks old when he left the hospital to come live with us. He is now 3 years and 4 months old.

I’ve been lucky enough to be able to stay at home with him. Motherhood IS the hardest job a woman could ever hold, especially after 50!! I have to admit it, its tough.

My life has been turned upside down, but somehow we’ve managed. We are survivors! Despite common misconceptions about older mothers (and grandmothers!), we do plenty of outside activities with Brody—he’s also starting soccer, as well as attending child art classes.

Being an “older mom” and in the peri-menopause stage, I get cranky, irritable, and need my sleep!! I also have a huge bucket list that I want to complete. We (my husband and I) have lots of plans for the future and most, if not all, will include our little one.

With that said, I love to post about Brody and our awesome time together.

 

Gaining A Son, Losing A Son

But there is still an untold story to share, and I’m working on that. It’s hard to talk about my biological son, and I haven’t been ready to write about it either.

I have lost my son, my only child (Brody’s biological father) and I haven’t finished grieving over it. I thank God for giving me the strength and courage to carry on with life. After all, who else will raise Brody?

Through my blog, I want to offer support and encouragement to anyone that has gone through CPS (Child Protective Services) loops and challenges, midlife parenting, grandparents who raise their grandkids, women getting pregnant or adopting after age 40 or 50, and all women going through menopause.

 

Coping Tips: Motherhood Over 50 & Menopause

My advice on dealing with menopause while raising a toddler:

  • Take time to relax – spend a weekend alone or with girlfriends—it does do you good.
  • Talk to your spouse – tell him what’s going on in your body and ask him for help with the little one.
  • When hot flashes arise…stay out of the kitchen!! No, really—if you must take your clothes off go in another room OR make a joke about it…just try keep it simple.
  • When your emotions get out of hand (and they will), just remember to breathe deeply and count to 15. It does work!
  • Find a relaxation exercise. Yoga is great for me!

 

Notes for this blog:

 Kim Croisant resides in Texas with her husband and grandson, Brody, who is now 3 and ½ years old.  You can follow her blog at: http://www.mommieagain.com (http://www NULL.mommieagain NULL.com).

 

12 Responses to Mothering A Child After 50

  1. Sharyl V says:

    I commend you!! It’s a hard job, but someone has to do it, and you stepped up to the plate.

    Your grandson will be so blessed, and he will figure that out :)

    Good luck to you. You’re an angel on earth.

    **Sharyl

    • Kim Croisant (http://www NULL.mommieagain NULL.com) says:

      Sharyl,
      Thank you dearly for your comment. I know one day I’ll be explaining this all to Brody and his 3 siblings and hope they understand.

  2. Angel La Liberte (http://www NULL.achildafter40 NULL.com) says:

    I echo your every word, Sharyl! Now that I’m 52, I completely understand what Kim is talking about when she shares the challenges and the blessings. One thing we should all be aware of is that, if you have your child literally anytime after 40, it is inevitable that you will be a mother to little ones, well into your 50’s, and facing menopause too.
    Thank you again, Kim, for your honesty and courage!

    • Kim Croisant (http://www NULL.mommieagain NULL.com) says:

      Hi Angel,
      Yes, menopause and a boy…need I say more!! Brody is a spirited little one. Thank you for your encouragement.

      Kim Croisant
      Mommie…Again

  3. Karen at MomAgain@40 (http://momagain40 NULL.blogspot NULL.com) says:

    Stunning story! Off to go and read on your blog

  4. Michele (http://www NULL.mikishope NULL.com) says:

    Inspiring story. You have been through a lot and come through it!! You will probably tell Brody about his biological father one of these days-but–he will always think of YOU as Mom–you are raising him!

    • Kim Croisant (http://www NULL.mommieagain NULL.com) says:

      Thank you Michele for always being by my side…even though we’ve never met in person.

  5. Midlife New Mom (http://www NULL.expiredeggs NULL.blogspot NULL.com) says:

    Thank you for your encouraging and inspiring guest post – I’m looking forward to soaking up some of your wisdom!

    • Kim Croisant (http://www NULL.mommieagain NULL.com) says:

      Well, thank you. Inspiring others is what I hope to do. Wisdom too…but major still learning here!!!

  6. Alicia Bayer (http://www NULL.examiner NULL.com/attachment-parenting-in-national/alicia-bayer) says:

    Thanks for sharing your story here and on your blog. There’s a real need these days for honesty in blogs, sharing the really tough stuff and not just the photoshopped days. Off to read your blog!

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